Faith has guided Norman Jones his whole life. Even in the face of an uncertain ALS journey, it hasn’t wavered.
Norman Jones described the beginning of his ALS journey as an emotional rollercoaster. He had gone from the highs of retirement and having more time to spend with his family, to the lows of a devastating ALS diagnosis. “But my faith has kept me strong,” Norman shared. “My wife, my kids, my friends, family, and church…they kept me strong.”
Even from a young age, Norman’s grandmother instilled in him the importance of faith. It kept him strong when he moved to the U.S. from Jamaica as a child, and it led him to become a Chaplain in the Army. Norman served in the army for 32 years, 24 of those being as Chaplain, before retiring in 2016.
Two years later, he noticed symptoms such as his left foot dragging while he walked and slurred speech. Through a series of tests and doctor’s appointments, Norman was formally diagnosed with ALS in May 2018.
Today, Norman and Dee, his wife of 41 years, live in San Antonio. They have two daughters—one who lives with them at home and the second who recently got married and is teaching in Korea.
Norman is still involved with his church, teaching a Wednesday Bible study, preaching occasionally, and even sharing weekly email devotions with his congregation. “Even though I have my limitations, I don’t let that stop me from getting involved.”
Dee and Norman connected with the ALS Association after visiting with Dr. Jackson at UT Health in San Antonio. Just two years into their ALS journey, Norman and Dee had to also adjust to the challenges of the COVID-19 pandemic, as In-person clinics and support groups came to a halt for the safety of Texans with ALS and their families.
During this time, virtual support groups kept the Jones family connected with the ALS community. “You’re able to express your emotion and your struggle. And then you get advice from others how they handle their struggles,” Norman shared.
Hearing the stories of other ALS families and swapping notes has been incredibly helpful to Dee as a caregiver. “For me, it’s a lifeline,” Dee shared. She recalled that many times, she has heard experiences from other wives and caregivers that are like her own. “Some of us are going through the same issues and same journey. I try to embrace it.”
Besides the hope of finding a cure, Norman, and Dee hope that researchers will discover ways to detect ALS early and provide treatments to improve quality and length of life with the disease. “I have a lot of hope,” Norman shared.
In the meantime, Norman encourages others on the ALS journey to stay connected to the community around them. “Reach out and connect with family, friends, and organizations, because you get your strength and support from others.”
In January 2019, after a year of doctor’s appointments, increased symptoms, referrals and second opinions, Jack Mercz was diagnosed with ALS at the age of 53. In a recent ALS Texas interview with his widow Jennifer Mercz, Jennifer shared “our whole relationship pretty much changed in a day.” Jennifer and Jack had a then two-year old son, and Jennifer added, “I had been with my husband for 10 years and suddenly found myself not only caring for my husband but also my young child.” She recalled moments that included putting her son in the bath and helping her husband in the shower at the same time, and at the end of the day being too tired to even take a shower herself.
Jennifer shared that Jack was not very accepting of any kind of help; he wanted to be stronger in every way and help Jennifer at home when he was not traveling for work. Frustration over his declining physical abilities and strength led to anger and depression and Jennifer shared that she “became very standoffish emotionally-clinical with him.” While Jennifer did reach out to ALS Texas and the community as much as she could, she added that “things were moving so quickly that I didn’t seem to have time” to do more-such as accessing our ALS Texas equipment loan program sooner. “The ALS Association delivered a Hoyer lift to our home-it was great, and we needed it. Jack was able to get up (after weeks of being in bed) and sit on the couch with our son.” He told me that he wished we would have had that [Hoyer lift} earlier. In retrospect, she added that she would do things differently in making some “executive decisions” about Jack’s needs; equipment and care that would have also benefitted her. She urges all family caregivers to seek help with caregiving if at all possible-from anyone who is able to help, including friends and family members, and when someone says, “Hey, do you need help?” the answer is “YES! Here’s how you can help me.”
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Connor Hadley was a pre-teen when his Dad, Collin, was diagnosed with ALS. He since has watched ALS progress and rob his Dad of so much. Now at the age of 17, virtually every day brings a new normal.
“My Dad was diagnosed November 14, 2017. I had just turned 17 as well. From 2017 to August of 2019, I was very involved in my father’s day-to-day caregiving,.” Gabriel Shared. At the time, he was still in high school. “I had to make sure that I got home on time so I could give him is IsoSource feedings. I had early release at school, and got home around 1:00, and would stay with my Dad until about 6:00pm when my Mom got home from work, and then she would take over.”
